Sex tips What is a yoni massage?

What is a yoni massage?

ANSWER: Instructions for a yoni massage (yoni is the Tantric term for female genitals).

The Yoni massage, or female genital massage, brings healing and emotional opening. Your intention is not arousal, or orgasm, although these may well occur, but rather to help your lover become more sensitive, relaxed and connected to her yoni—her sacred temple. Much frustration, pain and trauma are held in the tissues of the vagina, loving massage can help discharge them. This process may bring up strong emotions—feelings of fear or anxiety and joyous outpourings of release. It may take several sessions before her yoni has healed so that she can fully enjoy the range of sexual pleasures it holds.

Your lover lies on her back, a towel-covered pillow under her hips. Her legs are apart, knees slightly bent. Sit between her legs.

Look into each other’s eyes and breathe slowly and deeply together.

Gently massage her legs, belly and torso, advancing without haste to her inner thighs and pelvis.

When she is relaxed move to her yoni, and, asking permission to honor this most sacred spot, pour a good quality water-based lubricant on her mound and begin to massage it slowly.

«Slowly» is a key point for this entire massage.

Gently squeezing each outer lip between thumb and forefinger, stroke up and down.

Ask her to tell you if she wants more pressure or speed or softness.

Repeat the stroking, squeezing motion on her inner lips.

Move to her clitoris, circling, squeezing, and gently pulling.

When you feel she is ready, ask permission to enter her enchanted garden and gently insert your finger—some women like two fingers.

Crook your finger in a «come hither» motion and press it against the walls just inside the entrance of her vaginal canal.

Explore all around this wonderful opening, fraction of an inch by fraction of an inch.

If you encounter spots that are painful or tight stop movement but continue to press your finger there.

Breathe together. You may notice tingling or heat as the tension releases.

Move a little deeper into her honey pot and again press all around.

This is the area of the g-spot, which can be extremely sensitive—its spongy tissue is a storehouse of sexual frustration and pain—so move respectfully.

Some women feel a burning or a desire to urinate when the g-spot is awakening, continue to apply pressure and allow the sensation to pass.

Move deeper still, straightening your finger and pressing along the sides as you go farther back toward the cervix.

Wherever she feels trauma or pain stop movement, press the spot firmly, breathe deeply, until there is a release.

If your lover would like you to, as you continue your internal massage begin to stimulate her clitoris with your other hand awakening her to a state of high arousal.

She may experience orgasm—clitorally or vaginally or in combination.

When she feels she has had enough, slowly take your hands away.

Complete your massage by gently holding her in your loving arms.

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